As I write this blog, I am thinking of a close friend of mine. I knew how painful it is for him to let go of a person whom he is in love with until now. He is unsure if it’s the right time to let go of her and undecided if he has to fight for her to win her heart back. I know, letting go is one of the crucial way in a relationship; but remember, not all stories have a happy ending... In real life, it isn’t always like a fairytale. It is hard to let go of someone who had been part of your life especially if that someone is the one who makes you happy, if that someone makes you feel complete, if that someone brings out the best in you. It is not determined of how long you two had been together, but it is determined by the feelings that you two had shared. When you are in love, you get so excited in every way. You think of the same person over and over again, every minute… every second… and not seeing that person for a while seems to be not seeing him or her for quite a long period of time… it seems that you have been waiting forever and can’t wait to see that person again. You feel so inspired every time you do things together. It seems that no one can break you apart. You two are so united! That is called “crazy in love”. Life is not so perfect and this friend of mine is now in the middle of real life examination. He has so many questions: Is it the best time to let go? Are they really in love with one another or is it just a one-sided love affair? Shall I fight for her if she is the one pushing me away? Admittedly, he loves the person but he is not ready with the next level of commitment yet. He knew how much he wanted to be with her, spend his life with her, but afraid that he can’t fulfill the girl’s expectation. My question is, is he really in love? From my point of view, if you already found your true love, you shouldn’t have inhibitions. You should not put a limitation into it, on how far the relationship should go. You should allow your feelings to direct you in the right path. If you feel that she is the right girl for you, why are you so afraid to show it and admit it to the world? If you two are both in love with one another, together, you will find ways to overcome the trials in your relationship. Not only you will fight for her, but she too, will fight for you. If you are the only one fighting for it that is called one-sided love affair… then let her go so both of you will be happy. The magic of love comes from both people. If you are really in love, let the spirit, the passion, the affection flow freely from both of you. Don’t be afraid of what others will say because in the end, it is the two of you who matters.
Kilala ko to..he!3
ReplyDelete***He knew how much he wanted to be with her, spend his life with her, but afraid that he can’t fulfill the girl’s expectation.*** - this may be define as challenge instead of love. If he loves the girl then he should be starting to work on what that "expectation" is instead of forever carrying the burden of what could've been if he did this and that. REGRETS can be easily define but is hard to escape from :)
ReplyDeleteGirls' expectations are not always right and are not always the ones that will make them happy. Boys can go crazy to meet those expectations just to win the girls, but sometimes find those later not worth a try or not right at all. A boy don't just give in to the expectations all the way, he thinks first. He will even try to change a girl's perception on that "expectation" where it will not sound selfish for the guy. Who knows, those "expectations" can only be started, or maybe better started once their relationship is defined...
ReplyDeleteNaks! well, I repeat my words.. "From my point of view, if you already found your true love, you shouldn’t have inhibitions. You should not put a limitation into it, on how far the relationship should go" I don't mind going crazy trying to meet the girl's expectation rather than losing her forever. If you knew her value to you, you will say that "she" alone is worth a try. Don't be afraid friend. Listen to your heart and follow whatever it asks you to do.. i believe, it will make you happy in the end.. it is what your heart feels which will be sent to your brain so don't care for what your brain thinks for now.. hahaha!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Det. It's very rare to find someone who can give u genuine happiness. And your so lucky if u already know who's that person is. Regardless if that person is sum1 u can call ur own or if it's an unconditional love that u can give. Forget about expectations and standards. If a person is in love, there should be no but's, no how's no why's whatsoever. You just and and love the same person until it hurts :(
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